How to break the impasse in relationships

 Popular in fact a man well versed in interpersonal communication radius of the surgery. In the need to field, its function can be summarized in following words: mediate disputes, resolve conflicts, avoid embarrassment, to break the deadlock.
from active point of view, the good of others exposed the ugly fight the initiative to smooth things over, as the number of field; others into dilemma, take the initiative to rescue, to find the steps to his station got under him.
from the passive side, self-inflicted mistakes, to be good at fighting, justify; unfortunately fall into the social impasse, changes his mind, break the ice ice; with people likely to have unhappy, not least, and and successful, there is a good popular resources, less technical support rounders surgery, is likely to be a Jimie As long as there are these things to you mind and peacemaker who will inevitably come to show his paces. In fact, as long as rounders have surgery, did not persuade the world not open the frame, no dead knots untied.
never in front of and finding fault occurred in children who quarrel dispute, they will not understand the following facts: the two sides locked in heated debate (including the provocative side), all hope that as early as possible to shut down. However, the booing of the crowd who watched in the next, to have received not received . Thus, if the two sides became more acute, the tone has become increasingly hard, even become a scene for the scuffle. When the two sides quarrel punched and kicked, while onlookers also do wall concept, indifferent, then it really makes people feel a bit out.
So, if you can come forward to rescue, they are in the heart of your gratitude, certainly as Taotao endless river, and your You need people to rescue you when you will be someone willing to charge the tongue, you can also suffer from some skin.
be advised that moving mouth and hands of the holder, and must have experience.
not enough people fighting experience, it can not distinguish between a good time and tried to mediate, therefore, has been reluctant to come forward and tried to mediate away. For example, no better time to move forward and tried to mediate, said: a! ; what should have been stopping? should have mean? not be persuaded to stop that one, it may consider itself to be as big bad guys.
then tried to mediate in good time what is it?
① place if both parties are sitting, when a sudden increase in one voice station up in;
③ place if both parties are standing, where a sudden step forward, when the notice about the use of force.
this time, immediately stepped forward, notice the use of force to stop people who do not be partial to any party. The problem is, there is no fighting experience, it is difficult that such discrimination. Thus, the two sides clash, and in the tussle has been the beginning and tried and tried to mediate, the possibility of a considerable beating. is Because of this, the onlookers tried to mediate the general was not easily approached.
If you can not pull the two sides before the use of force, tried to mediate the essentials, the line must be of the following ways.
Quanjia who have beaten the consciousness, and then forcibly squeeze himself between the two. Meanwhile, as the domineering roar out: : Do not to completely avoid skin pain, time to be out of settlement is critical juncture, people who play for the defeat of the rescue of God's role, it was highly meritorious.
Now look for a job with in together to see other people arguing and fighting, even if the tube is also able to Regardless, sidelines, looking like a diorama-like, it too had no conscience. more, you go and tried to mediate, mediation, to quarrel, fight, the two sides can also have a trace of warm heart: not everyone are indifferent, callous.
One thing is certain: If you move the gun rack Ququan knife, then you probably will, can not help but realize this field, then play disputes, disputes between relatives and friends, colleagues, disputes between neighbors, a dispute between the disputes between strangers. if not promptly addressed, no doubt it will affect the mutual relations and social stability and unity. So master mediation disputes and resolve contradictions in the language of art has great significance. smooth things over in many cases by articulate implementation.
① touched for the very, round the well and bring prestige to persuade the.
Chen happen with a movie star contradictions, was rejected. Zamen Chen wait to relieve my heart of anger. an old police Chen said: also your home. But what if you are unhappy in the sudden, here, will let someone else have an excuse, there is little shelter Spring Festival holiday, once the sudden, unpleasant, and we have called another policeman, you say Which is not home? which do not want to have a reunion years? you think about it. home Chen displeasure thing if it is possible to make his comrades had a bad New Year. It is obvious that the language of the old police also full of feelings aroused in the language of Chen Li's thinking, so Chen gave up the impulsive behavior, which may break the law to quell the disputes this.
② eliminate misunderstanding, something easy to talk.
some disputes because of misunderstandings caused, so as long as that line from, you can eliminate misunderstandings and resolve conflicts. Guangzhou City and the town with some of the cadre management planning work to go home ~ family planning inspection of private pharmacies. chemist Bark, and attracted a number of hundred large crowd gathered. At this time, the town party secretary rushed to the pharmacy. He chemist said: clearly, with our work. If you have difficulties, they do not violate the policy, we can help you. error, with the work, subject to inspection. contradictory so it was resolved.
③ wonderful apology, a settlement.
some conflicts or disputes in both parties desire mediation, but could not find a higher level. Mediation can skillfully apologize on behalf of one party to another, causing the other touched the other side who own initiative to apologize. This would effectively contribute to reconciliation. famous writer Liang Xiaosheng said in his book in a such a thing His mother and neighbors Aunt Lu Lu aunt and the son of the size of the problem occurred because of land disputes, he understood the situation, the first criticism of the mother, and Aunt Lu pointed out that the size of a house in the window then things can be understood as more than his family, no place to live. and then beam to the house Aunt Lu said something to apologize for the mother, and good language. Lo Shu, Aunt Lu Liang Xiaosheng heard the words of one person took his hand very excited and said: ; can not blame your mother, can not blame your mother. balance sheet of the attacks and three top ten reasons
some dispute as complex, or a long time, so the facilitator to specific conditions, dialectical clear good sense, to identify with the two sides reached a consensus to settle the dispute. Guangzhou City and Town, a village with a land ownership dispute with the military, none a few years to solve. They brought the town party secretary. party secretary in the full understanding of the situation on the basis put forward their views, he said: problem, we have to Bingzhe Transmission of the principle that respect for the history and face reality, give and take. consultation. land designated by the forces of the red line, the unit had the wall puzzle, in the final unit to use, even though troops have not been compensated, but also did not get the land use permit, but local to know the overall situation and support forces. drew the red line, but the troops did not use, nor expropriation of land for the villagers is still new, to the local all. there's no red line, but has been used by the forces of land for military installations, is still owned by military use; loan facilities for military forces changed the land use if the local can be recovered, you can also use the common development. views, and soon reached an agreement. unresolved issues of land ownership dispute was finally resolved.
⑤ acute Shengzhi, ice cream, first called the second five cents ~ blocks, called after five cents a piece. a woman to buy ice cream, said: the seller said: ? Tiger say you l r, the Palestinian Qing. is suffering l r, not l Tiger r. grateful to smooth things over by the vendor smiled and leave the territory.
⑤ clever form the heart, humor of the arms.
a unit of a pair of middle-aged couple, married nearly 10 years of bilateral relations ~ straight good. but the recent social entertainment issues, the two conflicts have taken place, and who can convince who. from the four corners of the argument and then beaten, leaving talk of the town, facing the breakup of a serious crisis. in the leadership and concern for family and friends, persuasion and persuasion, the two at last to sit down calmly with each other Today, can enter such a peaceful and democratic, a new stage of joint consultation is the result of our joint efforts, it is hard to come by ah! ! is because it is hard to come by, so we should treasure the good situation of stability and unity today! contradictions and make up.
3. , step how a given law, rounders should be how to fight, not all friends are well aware. Here a brief summary on how to smooth things over.
① mock self-deprecating, low-key exit, and find their own level.
If embarrassment things because of his careless life, only they suffered. a group of twenty years of each other on the old school, there is a man and a woman was at the same table, so to speak masking will be less. but the female students due to illness not long ago her husband death, male students did not know, therefore, one in the joke and her husband without scruple to mention. The other students informed, he is busy to stop, but he did not know the details, the joke is even more powerful. to prevent the students had to tell the truth that male students can be described as shame, embarrassment. But he quickly Huiguo Shen, first playing a bit in his face, then laugh and said: as there is no door, and I do not know the level of depth, only know nonsense. The Da Zui! the Dazui! and said: cover; more self-deprecating and less self-righteous; more low profile, with less arrogance. accidentally touch people like pain above the male students did, self-deprecating dig at the law, low-key exit, it is easy to be easy to find under the stairs .
who are likely to run into difficult situations under the stairs, but as long as more ways to give yourself a step is also not difficult to find things. give yourself a step, all the good way to have a common point: to be in the predicament in time to adjust their thinking, select a clever angle, to change the passive situation in front, trying to seize the initiative.
② confound right and wrong, cleverly explain, and resolve conflicts.
sometimes certain behavior in certain occasions Although has a specific meaning, but rounders are to resolve, but cleverly interpreted in another sense. Raisa Gorbachev and his wife visited the United States, Ronald Reagan to the White House attended the farewell dinner on the way, he was suddenly in the downtown and get off pedestrian shook hands. Soviet security personnel rushed to get off quickly, surrounded forward and ordered the Americans standing around Gorbachev out of his hand to his pocket. He was afraid the line population pocket of weapons, pedestrians am at a loss. At this time, behind the Raisa very witty, smooth things out immediately, and she explained to the Americans around, the meaning of security personnel to hand out to people, shake hands with her husband. suddenly, the atmosphere changed lively, people warm to the same Gorbachev shaking hands. Here, Raisa ingenuity strain, wonderful smooth things awkward scene at ease.
③ unauthorized use of vanity to compliment smooth things over.
ages, all want to hear good things gentleman villain, the parties are very upset or unhappy, as long as the appropriate kind words to say a few others, it clouds open the. once, the solution to accompany the emperor in the Jinshui Ocean fishing all morning nothing. the emperor is very depressed, then ordered Jin Solutions Millennium poetry. did not catch enough fish is disappointing, and how to write this poem? solution Jin deserves to wit, a little thought, once the letter I read: without a trace, where the fish can not overturned son, long live the king only to hook the dragon. Upon seeing it, said: , How to avoid the edge.
in certain social situations, sometimes due to face, sometimes not allowed to grasp, this time period can be assumed to express. i have two friends B and C, but, the two enemies, one B of A said that a C in front of the ill and exposing their privacy. A Hearing dubious, scolding c it, afraid of a good man wronged; do not criticize it, one to anger Nan Xiao, II. to be afraid of embarrassing B, he pondered the while, said something best of both worlds: shall not insist, in this dilemma, assuming that sentence can be said that the best siege way. a male student and teacher can argue that stopping the women's dormitory, the teacher insisted that absolutely can not. students can not convince the teacher for a long time, see also the teacher seems to be wroth, to end the controversy, a step for teachers, he cleverly said: However, after listening to the teacher is no longer a dispute.
Sometimes, unprepared or unwilling, not to answer questions, also can use this sentence. Q: : br> As the assumption of the conditions attached, so the expression becomes mildly, so questioning people involved in the speaker and the object can accept.
⑤ admit mistakes, sincere apology may well be a good way to smooth things over.
in life, and various conflicts too, but many contradictions can be eliminated by an apology. in which people hurt others, as long as more self-examination, the courage to admit his mistakes, a sincere apology to the victim, they will not difficult to resolve conflicts. Zhou Yang was in charge of leading literary and art circles, although the reasons for the political situation there, so he had to act as the role of the whole person, and later became one of Punished. but his Punished many people can not shirk responsibility, so many literary and art circles of Zhou Yang is very offensive. However, many times to many people who had been his whole apology, even though some people still bear a grudge, but not too many people, after all, nothing says Zhou Yang. want to come Zhou Yang, in his later years, if you can compare the words of peace of mind, which he told him had apologized to the whole, can not say that does not matter. He and many of the contradictions in his apology has been resolved.
③ initiative made a scapegoat, is conducive to turn hostility into friendship.
leadership disputes between subordinates, Sometimes just to take the initiative to take responsibility, both parties can resolve the conflict. Wang and the same old week in the office. Once, Wang went to the city government to listen to the report, the old week do not know, so Wang useful advice, face to face questioning of small Why not tell him that the king of information reported, the two thus kicked up. Pengzhu Ren understand the reason for the quarrel, the old Zhou said: He informed you, because you both have a person to listen to report on the line. If you have advice for me to mention it, do not blame Wang ah. sorry, they crash and burn.
① humor when failure is not much easier to work with it .. rounders Freud general, said: ; Humor is the lubricant of interpersonal communication, a sense of humor to make the two sides in laughter in the language of mutual understanding and pleasure. writer Feng Jicai visit in the United States, an American friend with his son to see him. They talked, who had strong like a calf's child, climb a large FUNG bed, standing above the bouncing hard. If bluntly asked him down, bound to make his father have apologized, it seems that you are less enthusiastic. Then they said a large FUNG humorous words: rounders technology, but also look dwellers can learn by analogy, learn and use. how to get clever and appropriate circle, in fact, difficult to end their methods, to explain its mysteries into the chapter in the text. to play on your own understanding, and always pay attention to others wise approach is to smooth things over technological progress of the opponents.
4. use of the wonderful, Cunhu
with people bent on communication, a lot of games will be easy to feel embarrassed to have such accusations, criticisms, refuse, etc. . this time is the ability of a test of attitude that, where good at smooth things over in similar situations who, generally speaking, a man certainly can not go wrong. Instead, you should reflect on themselves about it, learn life skills is a great need for . murder, but the first point, the doing things can not be too absolute. The following is a lot of years of experience caring people, summed up the you find.
how to break the impasse in relationships
popular man well versed in interpersonal communication is actually the radius of the surgery. in the need to in obtaining permits smooth life. This man is good at four technologies, the function can be summarized in following words: mediate disputes, resolve conflicts, avoid embarrassment, to break the deadlock.
from active point of view, someone else a good initiative to play smooth things over exposed ugly, as the number of field; others put on the spot, take the initiative to rescue, to find the steps to his station got under him.
from the passive side, self-inflicted mistakes, to be good at fighting , justify; unfortunately fall into the social impasse, changes his mind, break the ice ice; with people likely to have unhappy, not least, and and things settle, or even change a bad thing as a good thing.
and acted like a complete merit, there is a good popular resources, less technical support rounders surgery, is likely to be a can not achieve the illusion, at most, the same as the soap bubble, the embarrassment and deadlock, and need not talk about mediation and that, and. On the contrary, as long as these things to their inevitable Excuse me peacemaker to show his paces. In fact, as long as rounders have surgery, did not persuade the world not open the frame, not dead knots untied.
in front of and finding fault, did not quarrel with the person had a child disputes, they will not understand the following facts: locked in heated debate on both sides (including the provocation of the party), all hope that as early as possible to shut down. But , because those booing spectators watching in the next, would like to receive are not income. So, if the two sides became more acute, the tone has become increasingly hard, even become a scene for the scuffle. When the two sides quarrel punched and kicked, and onlookers are still doing wall concept, indifferent, then it really makes people feel a bit When the two sides will want to fight: your The moving mouth and hands of the holder, and must have experience.
not enough people fighting experience, it can not distinguish between a good time and tried to mediate, therefore, has been reluctant to come forward and tried to mediate away. For example, no better time to move forward Quan Jia, said: br> another may catch the tail, then, critical to say; ;
it easy to be mistaken for another favor, and not being advised that a stop may also be considered as a big bad guy himself.
then tried to mediate in good time what is it?
① If both sides sit in situ, when one of them stood up suddenly raised his voice;
③ place if both parties are standing, where a sudden step forward, when the notice about the use of force.
This time, immediately stepped forward, notice the use of force to stop people, do not be partial to any party. The problem is, there is no fighting experience, it is difficult that such discrimination. Thus, the two sides clash, and in the scuffle had the beginning and tried and tried to mediate, the possibility of a considerable beating. precisely because of this, the onlookers tried to mediate the general was not easily approached.
If you can not pull the two sides before the use of force, tried to mediate the essentials, must be based on the following way line of.
Quanjia who have beaten the consciousness, and then forcibly squeeze himself between the two. Meanwhile, as the domineering roar out: Chiyuzhiyang can of course another matter, at least, who was asked to defeat the sake of tolerance about the pain of flesh, is critical juncture in time to be out of settlement of the people of God for the defeat of those who play the role of the ambulance, it was highly meritorious.
since the same look for a job in together to see other people arguing and fighting, no matter even if we can tube, sidelines, looking like a diorama-like, it too had no conscience. more, you go and tried to mediate, mediation, so that fight, fight, the two sides can also have a trace of warm heart: not everyone is indifferent, cruel.
One thing is certain: If you move the gun rack Ququan knife, then you have eight-ten September will be > Most of the disputes are not so stimulated the use of force, usually text of the play. such as family disputes, disputes between relatives and friends, colleagues, disputes between neighbors, a dispute between the disputes between strangers. If you do not be resolved in a timely manner undoubtedly will affect the mutual relations and social stability and unity. So grasp of dispute resolution, resolve conflicts with the language arts is very important. smooth things over in many cases by articulate implementation.
① touched for the very, well-rounded in and advised in with Granville.
Chen, in contradiction with a movie star, was rejected. Zamen Chen wait to relieve my heart of anger. an old police Chen said: I can understand the feelings, we know you are her husband, so this is your home. But what if you are unhappy in the sudden, here, will let someone else have an excuse, there is little shelter Spring Festival holiday, once sudden, unpleasant, and we have called other police officers, which you say there is no home? which do not want to have a reunion years? you think about it. Chen has full understanding of the situation, . At the same time the old words of the police is also full of concern for his colleagues, that Chen displeasure thing if it is possible that his comrades had a bad New Year. It is obvious that the old police also full of the language Do not do illegal things ② eliminate misunderstanding, something easy to talk.
some disputes are caused due to misunderstanding, so long as that line from, you can eliminate misunderstandings and resolve conflicts. Guangzhou City and the town of a few tubes with the work of family planning cadres to ~ home of private pharmacies Check the family planning work. chemist Bark, and attracted hundreds of onlookers in the crowd. At this time, the town party secretary rushed to the pharmacy. He chemist said: family planning, it is the provisions of the city, you talk about the situation clearly, with our work. If you have difficulties, they do not violate the policy, we can help you. town cadres had come, suddenly disappeared gas, and recognized their error, with the work, subject to inspection. contradictory so it was resolved.
③ wonderful apology, a settlement.
some conflicts or disputes The desire of conciliation on both sides, but could not find a higher level. mediator to be ingenious to apologize on behalf of one party to another, causing the other touched the other side who own initiative to apologize. This would effectively contribute to reconciliation . famous writer Liang Xiaosheng said in his writings such a thing, his mother and neighbors, Aunt Lu Lu aunt and the son of the size of the problem due to land in a dispute, he understood the situation, the first criticism of the mother that Aunt Lu and the size of a house in the window then things can be understood as more than his family, no place to live. and then beam to the house Aunt Lu said something to apologize for the mother, and good language. Lo Shu, listening to Aunt Lu Liang Xiaosheng if a person took his hand very excited and said: forgive each other so that the two mutual understanding, and good as ever.
④ to find balance, to fight three of the top ten board
some dispute the cause of complex, or a long time, so the facilitator to specific conditions, to clarify the dialectical good sense, to identify with both sides to reach a consensus, so as to solve disputes. Guangzhou City and the town of a village with a land ownership dispute with the troops, none a few years to resolve. They brought the town party secretary. party secretary in the full understanding of the situation puts forward his own views, he said: assemble the wall already, in the final use of force, even though troops have not been compensated, but also did not get the land use permit, but local to know the overall situation and support forces. draw the red line, but the troops did not use nor requisition, Villagers are still new for the land, to the local all. there's no red line, but has been used by the forces of land for military installations, is still owned by military use; borrow the land for military installations if the force changed the purpose, place can back, you can also use joint development. take the stairs.
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